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I pondered a while ago about how people can’t share their gifts with others because there’s a seed of discord existing that they haven’t trashed out. 

Hear me out, you cannot be friends with everyone but you can to the best of your abilities live at peace with all men.

I think it’s the enemy’s tactic to rid you of the gifts of men when he sows discord into your relationships. 

Relationships are one of the most amazing yet trickiest things to handle – this isn’t about romantic relationships. The people you meet daily and form bonds with can cause a change in the trajectory of your life as you also can in theirs. 

Wealth is with people – not necessarily money, as people can be connectors, helping hands when you need one, that person to help you snap out of a depressive state and other things.

You miss out on the blessing you can be to people when you run into offence. Offence can come in different ways and regardless of how it comes, it’s important to get rid of it before it rids you of that relationship.

Let’s talk about being a believer, and how you might not be able to share the gospel of Christ to people because you are offended by them. 

It’s really sad as the value of gaining salvation cannot be compared to an offence (no matter how great or small) that can be resolved or done away with.

Also, with sharing opportunities. You know a person would be great for that life-changing opportunity but the offence has eaten deep and so you don’t share it. This is one of the reasons why ‘it’s lonely at the top’.¹

I had a discussion with my friend centered on forgiveness. It was about someone that I got pissed at because my expectations were not met. On analyzing the issue, I got to see that I had realistic expectations but the offence I felt at the moment made me react thereby denying people knowledge that could be beneficial to them.²

That is a short and practical illustration of how an offence can impede on sharing your gift no matter how minute or great, with the world around you.

Some practical tips on dealing with offences are:

• Don’t take everything personally – not everything is about you. A lot of other factors could affect a person’s decision that is exclusive of you as a person. Do not be too self-conceited that you only see yourself as the cause and main actor in every situation.
• Have Realistic Expectations of people or you would keep getting hurt and disappointed.
• Don’t judge people; instead, evaluate your actions constructively and work towards making better decisions.
• Don’t be reactive to things. In life, it’s an easier choice to react to situations instead of acting despite them but the former leaves you still in that situation while acting despite a situation helps you stay on top of it.
• Don’t live life just moving on from things without addressing them – they will recur.
• Extend the same grace you would love for yourself to others. You like to say your mind then justify with the kindest of motives afterwards, extend that same thought to the person that crossed your part.
• Don’t be too rigid about your experiences. Life isn’t linear. Be wise in your decisions and relations but flexible in not letting past experiences taint your present perception.

Offences will come but what you do about the offence shows how much growth you have experienced and how much value you place on your fellow man. 

Set your mind on being positive so that even when an offence happens, you have the right approach to dealing with it before it eats deep into your soul.

Don’t give so much power to external influences (people and things) that they make you lose sight of the big picture – making the most of your existence.

You are amazing and the world needs to see it. Share your gift without restraint.

Keep shining.

Thank you for reading.³

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