Priscilla's Blog

Netflix’s algorithm has got to be amazing and weird at the same time when it comes to movie suggestions because tell me why I see a movie on missing people and they keep bringing titles that suggest looking for something.

I saw the movie, Finding You, and beyond the expected plot ending – usual love story endings, I picked something amazing from seeing this movie. 

Some people have had their lives all planned out by their families and their guardians and a detour from going through with the program, is termed betrayal of the trust and all the help they’ve got throughout their lives.

For some of us, we’ve had to grow and go through life figuring out things by ourselves but a laid down pattern had been set and a detour from it can be termed revolting and betraying the people who have done so much to get us to the level we are at. 

Where I come from, it’s a general family and societal expectation that you go to the university or probably learn a trade you can live with, work with that degree or trade, and then get married. I think it’s amazing to be married but many people mostly marry because they don’t want to go against societal norms, they want to make their families proud (which isn’t a bad thing) not because they are ready mentally and in other regards.

For some, it isn’t marriage. It could be carrying on with the family legacy (business) and not pursuing what they have actual interest in. Legacy is beautiful and having a backup different from your own personal income is always a relief at any time. Growing up and refusing to be a part of it because you don’t align with it can be seen as a betrayal.

I think it’s time, we own up to the fact that we didn’t create anyone, and as such no one can totally orchestrate the patterns of someone else’s life. 

It starts with you first. Will you be happy seeing someone you have invested so much in, make a detour different from that which you have patterned them after?

I think the human mind is interesting and what makes us unique beings is our spontaneity and the ability we have to want and create change. No person is created to be linear, everyone has an evolving point and it actually never stops. So long as growth is in the picture, evolving is non-negotiable.

So, would you rather stay in a pattern for loyalty and not bloom into your full self or take the steps needed to evolve into a better individual?

I’m rooting for you!