Priscilla's Blog

Many people in relationships, especially online, make “my man>>>”, “my woman>>>” look so fancy that you really just want to have that experience. Even if it’s from your sibling or friend.

“I want someone to get me that special gift, I want someone to surprise me, take me out on a dinner date, spoil me”, among others; you say.

I’m not saying those fancy looking love stories are bad. I’m saying that some of us that aren’t in relationships yet think it’s mostly fun and fairytales.

Fairytale love stories happen too, don’t settle for “bow down to worship me” kind of relationship (inserts hysterical laugh).

You meet someone and think that they are the right person for you.

Oh!, they communicate well, they’re understanding. They fear God! What could go wrong? (Inserts shaky laugh)

Relationships are investments; money, TIME, emotional energy, psychological energy among others.

It is sad when the person you bet on, turns out to be a shadow of what you’d expected.

You think words don’t hurt you, wait till your partner says the worst they think about you when you do not live up to their expectations of you.

I think it’s a big red flag when your partner constantly tells you not to hangout with colleagues that would want to be friends with you or old friends that would like to catch up.

Or when you are expected to reject gifts from people because your partner feels there might be strings attached to them.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying take your partner for granted by doing the wrong things. No, there should be mutual respect.

However, your individuality still stands especially when you aren’t married and you should be able to meet and make new friends.

Insecurity in Relationships isn’t because of what someone is doing. It is a personality defect that one person tries to project on another person.

Fall in love, be happy with your partner but if your relationship is seeming quite restrictive and abusive, then please fall out of it.

You are complete and valuable. You do not need a man or woman to validate that.

I hope we all find partners that make “loving” worthwhile.

Thank you for reading.

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